Feeling Suicidal? 5 Things you could do to Help Yourself.

Firstly, this is my first post of many to come, I only ever look to write about things I know from first-hand experience or stuff I like to do or my passions. I have a lot of them which isn't just doom and gloom but has been the reality, some were not dealt the best cards in life but that doesn't mean you can't decide how you play the rest of the game.

A great way to sum up how people may feel when feeling suicidal my sister summarised it pretty well is that some people really don't want to die or take their life in most cases, in reality they just really want the suffering they feel at that moment to go away. So, I have put together some tips below that may help.

With these unprecedented times, life has really taken a turn for the worst for some who are now suffering even more because their home isn't the safe place that it should be or from pure loneliness or losing their main source of income.

This isn't just an issue in the UK, this is a Global issue for many vulnerable people. Reports have shown that suicidal thoughts have gone up 12% and self-harm 3%, I’d say this may be double or triple because a lot of people do suffer in silence.

Personally, having survived darker times years and years ago. My hope for this post that it may just help at least 1 person. I will be the first to admit that I hate getting advice from people who have no idea what certain hell's feel like. My thought usually is "but what would you know?" all they can do really is imagine, they can’t apprehend the pain felt, everyone’s unique to them. Nor the mental strength and internal resilience needed to put yourself out of certain states and that's why I feel it was a duty of mine to put this out there.

I know we hear this all the time, and even sometimes, I just think oh STFU. But you are not alone. Physically you may be, but I hope you find comfort in that you're not the only person who is suffering right now.

You may not be suffering from domestic abuse, it could be from bullying, social bullying, I could go on and on about what shitty people do nowadays. I will also get into this further about those sorts of people later lol.

Take this into account also; a great quote from the legendary founder of psychoanalysis, Sigmund Freud "before you diagnose yourself of low esteem or depression, first make sure in fact you’re not surrounded by ass-holes!" this is really the reality of it 95% of the time.

Or it could be none of the above.

Sometimes you find it can be financial strains, predominantly with a lot of men, the social pressures, the debts they've incurred, how will they support their families, which is one of the many causes of men who do commit suicide. Statistically out of the rates of suicide, its men who are 2/3's of that. It's sad to know that, especially in the 20th century. It’s not just the vulnerable women and children, there are a lot of men out there who also need a hand and may not be getting the support they need.

At the end of the day your human, you will feel these things but just don't give up & read these 5 things you could do but this is short term and should always seek professional help if you really can't get out of this particular 'state’.

1. Cry, cry, cry

Obvious right? well you'd think so, sometimes you just need a good old cry, that's how you release the pain. There's not a time limit on releasing pain, it could be an hour, even 3 days straight or longer.

Other times you may feel numb and just can't cry, this is a phase of your heart, only you know, another good thing to do is put on soppy film, that you know will make you cry, it really does help.

Lastly if you are in a controlled environment sometimes your perpetrator will make you feel small or weak for doing so, like I said above if you don't live in a 'safe place' then have a shower/bath use this alone time to get it out.

2. Journal then burn that mofo:

Personally, I would do this on a notepad, it’s much better than writing it out on electronics. The effort in writing is much more satisfying than hitting a keypad. I feel it’s a transfer from your mind to paper, journal things like, what your current circumstances are, what is making you sad, low, and maybe angry, I see no reason to hold on to these things or to keep reading it, when you’re done, rip it up or burn it and that's how you can start to release the feels. Keep doing this as long as you need.

3. Jump! Dance! or Clean!

Sometimes you can be in such a rut that you forget you control your body and mind and so literally just changing the narrative instead of getting into the cycle of feeling down, just literally jump up and down, go for a run, get the natural endorphins going that will give you a natural high and put you into a more positive state. Lastly cleaning is a very therapeutic way to get things of your mind, and you will be killing two birds with one stone, after you'll feel great that you done some work and now you are in a healthy environment

4. Have a laugh

Well, if it was as easy as that we'd all do it, what I’m saying is take up your own pursuit in bringing some sunshine to your world, as in watch funny videos, find your favourite comedian and watch their videos. Everyone's humour is different but thank God for YouTube where most of us have access to this platform. Or you could put on your favourite comedy.

5. Better days are coming!

Literally keep telling yourself better days are coming, well a lot of us can agree there are some days you feel low and some days you feel happy no one is exempt from this, we are all human, doesn't matter if your black, white, or brown, rich, or poor everyone has these emotions. The storm doesn't last though, just like the seasons, "after winter MUST come spring, change comes eventually" ha, yes, I just quoted the legend Lauryn Hill, but she’s right.

The points above I've generalised so that I can really help on a mass scale, personally my first would be to turn to God. Lean on him and do not worry. Prayer really changes everything.

Regardless always get professional help. In this case, talking specifically about suicide the best charity to call would be the Samaritans, they are trained professionals to offer a listening ear or even some advice. Details below.

Samaritans

Website: www.samaritans.org

Phone: 116 123

Email: jo@samaritans.com (response time 24 hours a day)